Thursday 5 august 2010 4 05 /08 /Aug /2010 06:12

Perseverance is the hard work you do after you get tired of doing the hard work you already did. ~Newt Gingrich

 

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Did you know that it took 40 tries before WD-40, developer, Norm Larsen, got it right in 1953?  Not only was he successful in designing two-fold water repellant that also prevents erosion but WD-40 has since become a household name used for numerous household needs.

Fortieth try? It sounds like a lot doesn’t it?  I’m sure his family and friends may have felt the same way; even trying to discourage each attempt.  However, had he been afraid to fail so many times and resorted to listening to those people, we may not have that wonderfully versatile product that loosens and lubricates today.

 

Has the fear of failure gone too far?  Today’s society has become so intolerant of mistakes and failure that we go to great lengths to hide or disguise them. This nothing-less-than-success attitude can have serious dream crippling penalties.

 

More recently, the oil sands offer us a lesson in perseverance.  Dating back to the 1960s and '70s, many researchers were attempting to develop an economical way to dig up oil from the thick sands in the Athabasca basin located in Alberta, Saskatchewan. The project almost seemed to be a complete waste of time and money, because it was not made commercially viable.  However, as the technology improved, including help from inflating fuel and energy prices, the oil sands have paid off.

 

Now, Alberta's energy division’s challenge is how to supply this energy hungry world in a way that does not or minimalizes damage to the Earth. There are various modern, resourceful minds developing ways to make this happen.  But rest assured that there is bound to be many more ideas that flop than ones that work.  Today more than ever we must be prepared to try numerous times and possibly fail just as many before we finally achieve our goal.

 

Some readers may wrongly conclude that I'm suggesting that we readily accept failure and weakness.  The exact opposite of what is being proposed.  What I am proposing is persevering; not giving up because one, two or even three strategies don’t work.  These are only hurdles that need to be jumped.  This is when you step back, re-strategize and attack it again.

 

I understand that, at first, this may be a hard principle to accept, especially, if you live in a culture where failure is punished harshly and success rewarded; like Alberta.

Understand that tolerating failure doesn't end with failures and attempts.  Tolerating failure encompasses learning from it.  Ask yourself questions like: 1. why didn't that work?  2. what did I learn that I can apply next time?

 

Our personal progress relies on risk-taking. As an entrepreneur you have an idea, as a scientist you have a gut feeling, as a designer you have an image.  However, to act on any of these notions, you need to take a chance.  Should the consequence of failure seem too much, it can and will interfere with the motivation for you, as the risk-taker, to try anything less than a sure thing. And your dreams and achievement of them, will suffer.

 

Don’t get me wrong because failure should not be devastating.  However, I believe that taking a chance on a dream should not be undermined by zero-tolerance for failure. We can't sit and flounder in failure, but we can learn to embrace failure for what it is -- an essential stepping stone to achieve success.  Just as it took 40 tries to develop WD-40, your perseverance is bound to pay off.

By The Perfect Perception - Posted in: Business
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Tuesday 27 july 2010 2 27 /07 /Jul /2010 04:17

I promised to post this, so here it is……..I pride myself on being honest.  It’s one of my positive virtues and one that I hold dear.  And, I do my best to keep it in the forefront of my being and personality on a daily basis and am willing to defend it when I deem it necessary.  However, last week during our planning session, I was checking email and reacted.  Of course, when you’re all frustrated you are thinking faster than you can type and I’m speaking as I type as well so it’s no secret I’m a little upset.

I was stopped in my tracks, so to speak, when one of my students said: “Didn’t you tell us that we shouldn’t care about other people’s opinions. Just file it away and use it as motivation.  That’s what you said but you not doing that! (Yep, neck roll and all) We been listening to you about this for weeks that’s not motivation.  That’s aggravation.  Can’t you just agree to disagree and “keep it moving”, as you say.”

Dang.  She’s right.  And to you girls, I apologize.  But there are times, you may lose yourself in what you believe to be the defense of your honor but in doing so, forget the fact that it doesn’t make you any better than you’re proclaiming the other person is.  I’m definitely not perfect and I admit that I got so caught up in defending my honor that I overlooked the fact that not everybody IS completely honest and not everybody sees situations in singular events or the same for that fact. 

Believe it or not, this group of teenage girls took me through the ringer today for it and rightfully so because it took that to make me realize that my honor IS in knowing what I know and not in making other people admit it.  So here it goes.  As long as you know in your heart of hearts that you and ALL participating parties are quite aware of the WHOLE truth, not partials, of the matter and you feel comfortable in that fact then you can and have to just move on.  Things always have a way of proving themselves eventually, even if its 5 or 10 years down the line.  It’s bound to happen.  Life makes sure of that!  So I’ll say to my girls, again I apologize tremendously and am regaining my focus to continue doing something positive and watching you blossom into the successes you are destined to become.  Besides, how can I claim peaceful journeys and positive perception, if I allow myself to get caught up in a debate where no matter what, the participating parties will continue to see things differently?

For helping me to regain my focus, I am more grateful to you than you’ll ever know.  (Though you didn’t have to be so brutal.  LOL.  Guess I needed that too!)  Just goes back to something else I said, “Sometimes you lose focus and you need a jolt or a kick in the butt, whichever comes first, to get you back on track.”

 

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Sunday 27 june 2010 7 27 /06 /Jun /2010 20:41

This is my take on fake. We cannot move forward, motivated to achieve anything if we cannot be true to ourselves and the people in our lives. Keeping it real means so much more than letting the words pass through your lips and saying "I'm just keeping it real". Real shines through. It is not continually working to convince others of how real you are. It is not distorting truths and twisting them into something they are or were not. We all know the old adage "Actions speak louder than words"; therefore your actions tell how real you are; not your statements. As a matter of fact, it is only if you are a true person of action that will give evidence to your claims of being real. To be real shows in your daily actions and fake shines through. Being real never changes, it's true because it is what it is. This is why I say being real is so much more than just saying the words. Being real involves action and it is your actions that will ultimately prove whether or not you are as real as you proclaim. More of my take on fake. A person of many words, negative when speaking of others and painting quite a pretty picture when speaking of themselves, may not be as real as they would like you to believe but it is on you to pay attention. Their actions may give a glimpse into how real or fake they truly are and it is those actions that should open your eyes to their realness or lack there of, as well as, drive your decision to shake the fake. I understand that there are good people in this world. I pride myself on being one of them but a real one, without the lies, deceit, disloyalty and dishonor. So I know that there are people who are genuine, good hearted, loyal and TRUE; hands down but the snakes exist and in multitudes. If a person is truly real in life, love, family, and friends, their personality shines through without a doubt or shadow of fakeness to be seen at the time nor in the future. They are true; REAL. But there are also those wolves in sheeps clothing; like the serpent in the Garden of Eden that approached Eve and slyly made the trees of fruit, that GOD told her not to touch, look so enticing. He convinced her and she sinned, not only that, her penalty was severe to the point that we are still paying for her sin today. Just as a serpent speaking to a human, so are the fakers; they are snakes looking for ways to deceive; they are the fakers disguising themselves as real, true, and good hearted. Pay attention. You may be surprised at how fake people can be. I'm Tonja and this is my take on fake. What's yours? (Please keep it clean! You can get your point across intelligently.)

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Thursday 25 march 2010 4 25 /03 /Mar /2010 20:46
I'm sure you are one of those people who does not see yourself as a racist.  I know I don't or at least I didn't until I took the racist test online.  I was shocked to learn how racist I can be and if you take one of the online tests, you may be just as surprised.  Think about it. How do you react when you see that white woman with a black man or black woman with a white man.  Do you pass judgement? I know I used to turn up my nose.  And ask to no one in general, "why he have to be with that white woman or what the heck is wrong with her?"  Are you like that?  Do you turn up your nose or roll your eyes or even stare hard and mean at one of or the other.  If so, you just may be a racist too!

When I think back, racism was alway attributed to white people and we labled those people as KKK members in MIssissippi and Florida, where I lived.  However, since I have grown up and had an opportunity to meet and befriend various nationalities of people, I have found that we as black people can be pretty hard on others regarding racism but do not take into consideration the deep levels of it that we hord.  I can remember calling them cracker's and hunky's and white trash.  I can also remember talking with a former friend, who told me she had dated a white guy for three years.  Not only did I look crazy and turn up my nose but thought it disgusting and went as far as to ask her how she could do that, date a white guy. Like many, I spoke on something I knew nothing about. 

How is my reaction different from the days of them calling us niggers and believing we're all stupid, don't bathe, and should go back to Africa (according to KKK members)?  It's NOT! And what I remember that was so profound in that conversation with her comment to my question. She said, "I like what likes me and treats me well.  Color plays no part in it!"  Wow! I will never forget that statement and its actually one I have learned to live by.

This is the day and time of interracial relationships.  They are happening all around us and to some of us.  Black women are now giving white men an opportunity to date them more and finding out things they would have never given themselves the opportunity to learn had they not opened up.  Black men did not seem to have the same problem as most black women but I have noticed that there are more black men and asian and hispanic women dating these days.  There are even more Chinese and Russian men dating black women these days, as well.  It's an ever changing world full of different people from different cultures, who grew up learning different things.  You may be surprised by the similarities you'll find if you look beyond skin color and ethnicity and look at the person as a person with a personality and feelings and then base your like or dislike on how they treat you.

What is your opinion on interracial relationships? Blacks? Whites? Oriental? Hispanic?  African? (keep it clean please!)
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Sunday 7 february 2010 7 07 /02 /Feb /2010 18:10

What is your self perception?  Self perception is how you see yourself.  Maybe you're decisive and see yourself as a cut and dry success or failure with no in betweens.  Maybe you see yourself as a self-starter or procrastinator, as a business owner or general worker, writer or reader, or just a leader in general, etc.  Let's discuss perception as it applies to you.  Join us and post your comments on self perception at: http://perfectperceptionstl.blogspot.com/

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